Letting Go Of The Illusion Of The Narcissist

One of the most difficult, if not the most difficult, concepts to grasp in the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship, is that the person you fell truly, madly and deeply in love with; the person whom you believed was your soulmate, never existed…

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Do Narcissists Feel Regret?

Do narcissists feel regret when they hurt their partners? Regret is a powerful, toxic and very dangerous weapon in the hands of a narcissist, that he/she draws out once the partner’s love and loyalty has been firmly secured. Regret, in the hands of a narcissist, is a sophisticated form of coercive control and total fakery used to manipulate the partner into compliance.

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Life Lessons Learned From A Narcissistic Relationship

“Painful lessons will turn into magnificent blessings, if you choose to travel the road of learning them.”

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The aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist is wracked with pain, confusion, turmoil and suffering. Along with this, as painful as it is, comes valuable lessons that can help keep you from falling again into web of narcissistic abuse. The road ahead is bright and filled with opportunity. Take the following lessons with you as travel insurance, you’ve already paid for a lifetime policy:

* A man who says he trusts no one, can be trusted by no one

* A man who repeatedly accuses his partner of infidelity and lying is himself doing all of those things

* Pay very close attention to the simplest of behaviors that seem “off”

* Trust your gut, not your heart

* Evil doesn’t appear with a cape and horns, but that it appears as everything you’ve ever wanted

* A man who has nothing good to say about anyone is himself a bad person

* Never again question or doubt your instincts

* Never settle for anything less than what you know you deserve, you are supposed to be loved, valued, empowered, and happy in a relationship, not depressed, anxious, irritated, angry, walking on eggshells, isolated and abused

* A man without any meaningful friendships has serious issues

* It’s not your duty to try to stand by an abuser, no matter how many times he vows to “work on” his coldness, and his disrespectful and abusive behaviors

* Leave any relationship that is deteriorating, dysfunctional, and detrimental

* Run at the first sign of a red flag and do not – under any circumstances – look back.

Many thanks to Kimmie Browne, a Quora contributor, for sharing these wise lessons.

*Please note: All of my articles are written with the use of masculine pronouns to describe the narcissist. This is solely due to my own experience, and not meant to imply that men are not also victims of narcissistic abuse, as they are too.