The Empath and The Cold Empath: A Perfect Storm

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Says the empath, “Milan Kundera is right, ‘For there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one’s own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.’”

“No,” says the cold empath, “Steve Martin is right, ‘Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, when you do criticize him, you’ll be a mile away and have his shoes.’”

Now, imagine these two together in a relationship. It’s like light, and a black hole. Light: the empath, comforting warmth, a giver, a feeler, a healer. The black hole: the narcissist, cold empath, dark cruelty, a taker, a taker, a taker.

An empath and a narcissist together in a relationship is a perfect storm of one-sided woe.

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The Narcissist: Destroys Boundaries And Dismantles Your Identity

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One of the most detrimental, and toxic impacts of being involved with a narcissist is the destruction of the partner’s personal boundaries which leads to the dismantling and crumbling of the victim’s identity/personhood. This is a pernicious, and calculated process that occurs gradually over time. continue reading